Mother’s Day is gone for this year. Father’s Day is approaching, followed by all the holidays where we traditionally spend obligatory time with members of our families. Yet there are many who have no family, or do not have the Norman Rockwell ideal relationships with family members. As a pastor/ therapist / psychiatric nurse, and just- plain-friend, I have heard countless numbers of complaints regarding the lack of family connections. Estrangement and perceptions of neglect haunt everyone from time to time.
There is no reason to be without a family. Those who know my personal story are aware that I am a believer in adoption, which is nothing more, and certainly nothing less, than creating a family that goes beyond the boundaries of blood. Adoption does not have to be a legal process. Sometimes, it is recognizing and accepting heart ties that are stronger than legal ties.
I know a woman whose grandchildren live far from her, but who is regularly visited and honored by her brother’s grandchild. She chooses to mourn the lack of what she does not have, instead of embracing that other grandchild, who does honor her and give her the gift of time. What a tragedy we bring into our own lives, when we fail to recognize that family is loving presence, and not simply shared DNA.
Are you lonely? Go find someone who needs your friendship. Does no one visit, phone, give you gifts, invite you to dinner? Visit, phone, gift, invite someone to share a meal or a cup of tea. Has your family of origin forgotten, failed, disappointed, and abandoned you? You are chosen to be part of God’s family. Create from that vast multitude of relatives a family with whom you can share love, offer grace, and enjoy your personal safari.